Purity is NOT Just About Sex

Speaking to a group of young people can be very intimidating.  Speaking to a group of young people on the topic of sex can be excruciating.  Before I begin I always promise them, “This is NOT another lecture on sex.”  I also assure them I will not be throwing pictures of STDs on the wall as a scare tactic NOR will I be passing out condoms or describing the graphic details of abortion procedures.

Of course, STDs are a real medical issue in our culture, and I am as pro-life as the next conservative Christian.  But in my days of ministry I have come to learn that young people are not as concerned with the consequences of sex as we adults would like them to be.  Think back to your own teenage years.  Truth be told…someone explaining the physical consequences of sex was not enough to stop you from doing it.  The same is true today except for one major, even bigger, temptation – technology.

My encouragement to young people and the task before us, as a culture, is to bring back the importance of purity.  What I tell our kids and what I need parents to hear – PURITY IS NOT JUST ABOUT SEX!  Purity is a way of life that includes surrendering all areas of our life to Jesus.

In this world our kids are bombarded with sex, but when they come to church they hardly hear the word sex.  Yet, we have these expectations of them, morally, but we aren’t training them or equipping them inside the walls of the church.  When they walk OUTSIDE the walls of the church the world is waiting on them, ready to devour them.  And not just in regards to sex.

“But if we walk in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, PURIFIES us from all sin.” -1 John 1:7 ESV

Is it any wonder our enemy, Satan, spends so much time convincing us that the word purity is bad when Jesus died so that his blood would PURIFY us from all sin?  This is no coincidence!

Parents!  Young people!  Let us get wise to our enemy and realize that to live a life of purity means to be covered by the blood of Jesus Christ.  Let us live lives worthy of the cross and worthy of the Gospel.  Parents, make the sex talks in your home about the Holy Spirit.  Instead of saying DON’T, let’s tell our kids, “DO!  Do live your life for Jesus.  Wait for Him to tell you what to do.  Let Him be your Guide.”

“See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are.  And everyone who thus hopes in him purifies himself as he is pure.” -1 John 3:1, 3 ESV


Our Deepest Pain, God’s Greatest Tool

When I was a little girl, only 10-years-old, my father was pastoring the 4th largest Baptist church in the state of Louisiana. We had just moved to New Orleans and not long after my father had taken the pulpit at his new church, my world completely changed as I knew it. Because of a combination of some poor choices made by the adults in my life, and some very personal things taking place between my mother and father, my church life and family life became a total wreck and source of devastation.


As all of this was unraveling in our lives, I was still attending school at the church where my father pastored. Unfortunately, some of the most hateful people in my life have been the very people I have sat next to on Sunday mornings. As I played in the courtyard at recess during my 5th grade year, someone had strategically placed a very hateful note near my lunchbox, so that when I sat down to eat my lunch that day, I would read how much they hated my father and how he didn’t deserve to be in the position he was in as a pastor.


While the feelings of the person who left that note near my lunchbox that day may or may not have been justified, for a child to be caught in the crossfire, to have to pay for the consequences of the decisions of her father is not fair. It is not right. But it happens every day. You see? As adults, we sometimes don’t consider that our poor decisions will affect those around us. But they do. And the affects can last a lifetime.

For me that painful moment as a 10-year-old girl, marked the beginning of a very long, and painful at times, journey with the Lord. But it also marked the beginning of what I now see was the road to my purpose in this life – my destiny, my ministry, the reason for which my God created me. See? Only our God can use our deepest hurt and our most shame-filled moments for good and for His glory.

Are you at a place, yet, where you can see that God can AND wants to use the good AND the bad in your life?  I do not believe that He wills painful things to happen to His children, but I DO believe He can use them to create us into something beautiful.  That is just who He is.

“Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.”

 -Ephesians 3:20 (ESV)

Quit Playing It Safe

There are lots of things I am terrible at doing. Like baking, for instance. Or cleaning. Oh, and math. I’m terrible at math. But some things like writing and organizing, I’m not too shabby at doing. Oh, and talking – I’m great at gab – especially when it comes to mindless things. But you get me going on something I am passionate about?!


Not too many people I know say, “When I grow up I want to talk about sex.” Honestly, that is not what I said either. But as things would turn out, that is exactly what I am doing with my life. And I could not be more excited, more thrilled, and more in love with my job than I am in this moment right now.


I remember hearing someone once say, “You cannot amputate your history from your destiny.” It made zero sense at the time. But as I sit today, in this moment and realize what God has brought me through, that statement makes perfect sense.


Recently, God called me to start a ministry with the purpose of helping people find freedom from sexual sin. Specifically, God has asked me to help men and women find freedom that only comes from the redemptive power found in Jesus Christ when they surrender their lives to Him. Surrender means letting go of those things that have them, all of us, by the throat – lust, pornography, adultery, divorce, addiction, abuse, bad habits, prostitution, promiscuity, SIN. Initially, I felt very overwhelmed by the call, by the task. I still do at times. But then I remembered exactly what my God has brought me through and redeemed me from.


No, I cannot amputate my history from my destiny. BUT…


My history and my future, and therefore my destiny, share the same root – Jesus Christ.


God has a calling on your life, as well. And it is beyond your wildest dreams. No, I never could have imagined being in this place for such a time as this. The journey has been long and painful. But so far, it has been worth it all. The risk IS great. The cost IS high. And wouldn’t it? And shouldn’t it? After all, Christ gave His life for me and for you. Shouldn’t there be some cost, some risk for following Him?


Over the weekend, while America watched 50 Shades of Grey, 21 men lost their lives for the cause of Christ at the hands of ISIS. While men and women (yes, CHRISTIAN men and women) paid for and viewed pornography, Jesus welcomed (stood in their honor, I bet) 21 brave men as they entered Heaven.


YES, the cost is high. The risk is great. The choice is hard. But the reward is GREAT. His Glory – our reward.


You have a calling. You have a God-authored, Jesus-ordained calling on your life.  Don’t play it safe.  Our world has enough Christian people playing it safe.  Jesus is so worth the risk.

Now, go fulfill your beautiful purpose.